http://foreverayounger.com/2009/07/29/the-birth/ Tue, 25 May 2010 21:39:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://foreverayounger.com/2009/07/29/the-birth/#comment-326 The Good Ex-Wife Fri, 31 Jul 2009 00:39:24 +0000 http://foreverayounger.com/?p=1080#comment-326 Ouch...this is a little painful...okay, here goes. To be fair, he didn't tell me about her. At all. We started dating (and yes, his car was repo'd, phone disconnected, etc....don't ask me why I didn't RUN the other way!!!) and he didn't mention her for about a month!!! When he finally did tell me about her, the story I got was "There is this girl who is kind of like a friends with benefits kind of friend who's pregnant. She says the baby might be mine, but it might be this other guy's too...she doesn't know. If it IS my baby, I just want you to know that I AM going to be a father to him, and if you can't handle that we need to end this right now." Wow. I was needless to say - blown away!!! Part of me wanted to run, screaming. The other part thought that he sounded really stand up for taking his responsibilities seriously because family is so important to me. I agreed to stick in it. When the baby was born, he INSISTED that I go to the hospital with him. I told him I didn't think it was right. He said that he needed me there, and that if I was going to be in his life, or if this WAS his child, in his son's life, that I would do this with/for him. He assured me that because they had only been "friends with benefits" that it wouldn't bother her in the least. I felt like the biggest ass in the world! I'm sure I've been less comfortable at other times in my life...but I can't remember when! As he held his child, he said to me "this is NOT a (fill in his last name here)" He got VERY upset about his name (first, middle AND last) and I asked him "what do you care if you don't think he is yours?" to which he replied "I'm sure she only did that because she didn't know who the father was." He had a way of saying things and convincing you that it was true, and I guess if you WANT to believe someone, it's easier to swallow their lies. At this point we were only dating for 2 months (I KNOW! WHAT was I thinking???) and got engaged later that week (although he had already bought the ring and planned on proposing and obviously told her in the hospital the night baby was born). All I can say is that I never would have gotten involved with him had I known what he was really like...but I can't say that I'm sorry that I did, just like she can't. We got the only good things that he had to offer, and I love them with all my heart! Bonus: a couple of good friends ;) Ouch…this is a little painful…okay, here goes. To be fair, he didn’t tell me about her. At all. We started dating (and yes, his car was repo’d, phone disconnected, etc….don’t ask me why I didn’t RUN the other way!!!) and he didn’t mention her for about a month!!! When he finally did tell me about her, the story I got was “There is this girl who is kind of like a friends with benefits kind of friend who’s pregnant. She says the baby might be mine, but it might be this other guy’s too…she doesn’t know. If it IS my baby, I just want you to know that I AM going to be a father to him, and if you can’t handle that we need to end this right now.” Wow. I was needless to say – blown away!!! Part of me wanted to run, screaming. The other part thought that he sounded really stand up for taking his responsibilities seriously because family is so important to me. I agreed to stick in it. When the baby was born, he INSISTED that I go to the hospital with him. I told him I didn’t think it was right. He said that he needed me there, and that if I was going to be in his life, or if this WAS his child, in his son’s life, that I would do this with/for him. He assured me that because they had only been “friends with benefits” that it wouldn’t bother her in the least. I felt like the biggest ass in the world! I’m sure I’ve been less comfortable at other times in my life…but I can’t remember when! As he held his child, he said to me “this is NOT a (fill in his last name here)” He got VERY upset about his name (first, middle AND last) and I asked him “what do you care if you don’t think he is yours?” to which he replied “I’m sure she only did that because she didn’t know who the father was.” He had a way of saying things and convincing you that it was true, and I guess if you WANT to believe someone, it’s easier to swallow their lies. At this point we were only dating for 2 months (I KNOW! WHAT was I thinking???) and got engaged later that week (although he had already bought the ring and planned on proposing and obviously told her in the hospital the night baby was born). All I can say is that I never would have gotten involved with him had I known what he was really like…but I can’t say that I’m sorry that I did, just like she can’t. We got the only good things that he had to offer, and I love them with all my heart! Bonus: a couple of good friends

]]> http://foreverayounger.com/2009/07/29/the-birth/#comment-324 Becky Thu, 30 Jul 2009 17:04:20 +0000 http://foreverayounger.com/?p=1080#comment-324 Makes you wonder what the lying, cheating, poor excuse of a Sperm donor bastard said to this girl doesn't it? Sly one... Makes you wonder what the lying, cheating, poor excuse of a Sperm donor bastard said to this girl doesn’t it? Sly one…

]]> http://foreverayounger.com/2009/07/29/the-birth/#comment-323 Anna Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:13:26 +0000 http://foreverayounger.com/?p=1080#comment-323 Annie, this isn't the first time I've heard you tell this story... but it is the first time Iit made me want to go find him and castrate him and find her and ask her what the hell she was thinking of butting in on a time like that. As dumb as he was for bringing her, she should have known better as a friggin chick. Wow, the guts on some people. So here I am, angry at 10:15 am and it's your fault. lol Oh well, that just means I'm a good cousin. :) Annie, this isn’t the first time I’ve heard you tell this story… but it is the first time Iit made me want to go find him and castrate him and find her and ask her what the hell she was thinking of butting in on a time like that. As dumb as he was for bringing her, she should have known better as a friggin chick. Wow, the guts on some people.
So here I am, angry at 10:15 am and it’s your fault. lol Oh well, that just means I’m a good cousin.

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